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  1. Don Cheke
    11 March 2026 @ 5:00 pm

    A 10,000-piece puzzle – that is quite the puzzle!

    My biggest missing piece came when my father killed himself at the age of 47. I was 25 at the time and well into my own recovery, but I remember clearly feeling the finality of what he had done. There would never be any recovery on his part, and there would never again be the possibility of a better relationship with him. Although he was already out of our lives for the most part, there was always that little bit of hope. No more…. I occasionally think about that missing piece and wonder how things might have been different had he lived, but as stated, it would forever remain a missing piece.

    I liked the blending of the puzzle pieces. Instead of a sharp edge with nothing in the missing piece space it is blurred, indicating that it has some memory or hint of what the missing piece should be. That is like my example about – although he is gone, there is the memory of what was, and maybe should or could have been. Like you said, it holds and honors the feelings.

    When you asked about what the shape of our piece would be, I thought that mine would change, depending on my state of mind at the time. Sharp and spiky at times when I feel cheated, smooth and gentle when I am feeling empathetic, gentle, and grateful – not for his death, but for my own recovery and the road that I took, so unlike his. Colors too, would reflect the feelings at the time.

    A great piece, Suhail! That is the art and the blog post.

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    • Suhail
      12 March 2026 @ 11:05 am

      Thank you for trusting this post and this space with something so personal and so significant. What you have shared takes real courage and I am genuinely moved that the writing reached you in the way it did.

      What you describe is one of the most painful kinds of missing piece there is. Not just a loss, but the closing of a door that could never now be opened. The end of possibility. That particular grief, the loss of what might have been, alongside the loss of what was, is something very few people speak about honestly. You have described it with extraordinary clarity and honesty.

      What you said about the blurred edges in the painting stopped me. You understood immediately and instinctively, exactly what those softened outlines were trying to hold, the memory of what was there, the hint of what could have been, the refusal to let the gap be simply empty. That is a more precise reading of the painting than I could have written myself. You felt it directly, without translation. That is everything I hope for when someone looks at this work.

      And your observation about the shape of your missing piece, that it changes depending on your state of mind, is deeply perceptive. Sharp and spiky when you feel cheated. Smooth and gentle when you feel empathetic and grateful. That is not just a response to a blog post. That is a profound piece of self-knowledge. It also says something true about all missing pieces, I think that they are not fixed objects. They are living things. They shift with us as we move through time and feeling.

      It still surprises me, if I am honest, how such a simple missing jigsaw piece can carry. This is a short post and yet the humble jigsaw puzzle, something most of us have sat with on a quiet afternoon, opens a door to some of the most profound experiences a person can have.

      Loss. Hope. The end of possibility. The memory of what was and what might have been. It is one of the things I find most remarkable about the small, ordinary things in life that they are rarely as small or as ordinary as they appear. They are waiting, quietly and patiently, to be looked at a little more closely. And when we do look closely, we find that they have been holding some of our biggest questions all along. A jigsaw puzzle. A missing piece. An entire human life contained in the gap.

      Thank you, Don, for reading so generously and so deeply. And thank you, most of all, for sharing your own missing piece here.

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